The process of 'coming out' (admitting to yourself that you fancy someone who's the same gender as you) can be a long and sometimes difficult process. Some people become aware quite early during childhood, and may feel lonely or isolated, or could be bullied. Some people feel depressed and seek help, although worry how other people may react to them . 

Describes his feelings and fears before coming out. (Actor)

Many gay people find it difficult to find information about sexuality before they come out. There's a lack of information and even fiction aimed at gays and lesbians. This feeling of isolation and lack of information can put people in vulnerable situations . 

Describes his vulnerable situation before coming out.

Gay people remember starting to 'come out' first to friends, acquaintances or more distant relatives, like cousins . This helps assess other people's reactions and find out who may accept or reject them, although some people can be negative, most people are okay when they find out you're gay . 

Describes how each member of her family reacted to her news of being gay.

Explains that telling friends about being gay implies a confirmation of his sexual identity.

People may feel guilty, that they're somehow letting their families down by being gay, or that they were going against family, traditional or cultural values. However, most feel a sense of relief once they'd come out, and that it was an important step for them.  

Families are not always surprised to hear the news , with parents saying things like 'yeah, we knew it' . One girl admits that despite family acceptance and support she still continues to be apprehensive of society's reactions to lesbians."

Describes how she told her mum that she was gay and her mothers' reaction. (Actor)

Argues that lesbian and gay people are treated differently in society.

Sometimes family relationships are put under strain because a parent won't accept a person's sexual identity . In extreme situations people can be rejected by their families and thrown out of the home . Sometimes gay men arranged alternative accommodation before telling their parents just in case things went badly.

Explains that his mother still has trouble with him being gay.

Describes the situation he found himself in after he was kicked out of his home by his stepfather for being gay.

Young gay people need the support, information and guidance of others . Some schools do provide a supportive atmosphere for gay and lesbian teenagers but others do not. Young teenagers need to assess for themselves whether it is a good idea to come out in the playground. Several organisations provide confidential advice and information. 

Explains why he trusted one of his teachers to talk to about being gay. (Actor)

(see summary - Being gay)